Anxiety

Pushing Through Fear

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I got a comment the other day from someone. I had to block her IP address for repeatedly leaving the rudest comments. (Like beyond rude really… they’re insane.) I still see the comment in my email even though they don’t get published. But the comment was roughly about how I need help because anxiety affects every aspect of my life.

I’m sure she was (like usual) trying to make me feel bad about myself, not actually to encourage me to get help. But I had to shake my head and laugh because… duh.

Look, I fully and obviously acknowledge that I have anxiety. Sometimes people read my posts and think I’m overplaying the anxiety or that I don’t have anxiety because I function so well or that I’m a complete lunatic and need serious help.

I share my experiences not because I want to broadcast the fact that I struggle with it every day, but more because I wish I had known more people in my life be open with it. I think it would have made me feel less alone and less crazy, to be honest, if I had even known ONE person in high school and college.

The funny thing is… so many people do struggle with it. I’m sure I sat next to classmates privately dealing with their own anxiety (or other issues) and even took classes from teachers and professors who have anxiety. But anxiety isn’t something you can see. You can mask it by dressing nicely, being uber successful academically or professionally, having a ton of friends, keeping a smile on your face. But those things are just masks.

You don’t get to cherry-pick where and when and how anxiety will affect you. You can go years totally fine and have it pop back up down the road. Some things may be fine for you and others are paralyzing. For example, I love rollercoasters and have no problem public speaking (except for that one time, haha), but ordering at a restaurant or trying a new class at the gym leave me feeling downright nauseated.

I’ve been working on dealing with anxiety for as long as I can remember. I can’t imagine what life would be like without it. It sucks, and there are times when I wish I could snap my fingers and have it disappear, but that’s not how it works.

While there isn’t a cure for it, there are plenty of ways that you can manage anxiety. And that’s the real key here: managing it. There are doctors, support groups, medications, self-help books, and healthy coping strategies.

So yes, I have anxiety.

And I write about my experiences.

In a lot of ways, writing about my experiences has been a part of my journey with anxiety. I started my blog as a creative outlet while I was at one of the lowest points in my life– just two months prior, I had hit rock bottom. My blog was a lifeline for me to slowly start helping myself.

And, again, I write because I hope it helps someone else. I hope someone reads this and knows that while anxiety can cause some bumps, it doesn’t mean you can’t also find success and happiness along the way.

I often feel like my nerves have the potential to hold me back. They certainly have in my past, and I regret that. But, every day I wake up and make a choice not to let my fear hold me back from experiencing everything life has to offer.

It’s a daily struggle, but it’s worth it. You know what else is worth it though? Talking about it. When I get discouraging comments like the one I received a couple of weeks ago, it makes me want to quit. Sharing my life (the good and the bad) online can be weird, but I do remind myself that I’m sharing the things that I wish I could read. I write what I would want to read about, whether it’s a big sale that’s taking place or a personal struggle.

I read this quotation from Franklin D. Roosevelt sometime this year, and it’s stuck with me ever since: “Courage is not the absence of fear, but rather the assessment that something else is more important than fear.”

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146 Comments

Kathryn

Thank you for being so open and sharing this! That girl has no idea what she’s talking about. I too struggle with anxiety and wish I had known someone growing up dealing with the same thing and even in my job today wish I had someone struggling with the same thing and not feeling like I always have to hide it.

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Anne

I get how one negative comment makes you block out all the positive ones, but I really do think I speak for most of your readers when I say that I absolutely love how honest you are on your blog, anxiety and all- in fact, it really wasn’t until reading your blog my freshman year of college that I could finally sum up the weird irrational fears I would get all the time, the kind that leave knots in my throat and have me up all night tossing and turning. No one had ever outright explained what their anxiety felt like, and to me it was not only refreshing, but made so much sense when I started to figure out my own anxiety and symptoms. I think that it’s important for successful people such as yourself to be honest about things like anxiety, to show someone like me (a freshman who had no idea what to call what she was struggling with) that it’s a struggle and reality for all kinds of people. I am honestly getting so sick of the “all is peachy” bloggers- which is why yours is one of the only ones I always consistently come back to. So keep doing what you are doing, and thank you for being honest. (Oh and I practice my restaurant order in my head at least like 5 times before I actually say it to the waitress, so you’re not alone)

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Julianna

Carly, your openness about your anxiety has always inspired me. I’ve struggled with anxiety since I was 10, and nine years later it is something I still deal with on a regular basis obviously. Hearing your stories does exactly what you hope it does; it makes me feel less alone. I started reading your blog around the height on my anxiety in middle school and high school, and being able to read your experiences helped me so much. Thank you so much for always being willing to share your stories.

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Kelsey Jones

What you’ve said really resonates with me! I’ve struggled with anxiety a lot in my life too. When I look at my own, some of it is understandable (loss of loved ones) and then some seem so unreasonable that I wonder why I’m freakin out at all (parallel parking with a line of waiting cars behind me…nightmare). It’s helpful to be reminded I’m not alone, even if my experiences are unique, I can find solace in knowing others are working through it too. And I agree, talking about anxiety is so important, so I’m really grateful that you share your experiences. They are valid! And you express them beautifully. So, thank you 🙂

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Margot

You are not alone. I have suffered from anxiety most of my life. Sometimes it’s bad and other times very manageable. Some people are unable to understand and no longer feel I have to explain. Glad you had a wonderful time in Paris. Love the pic of you next to the Degas statue.

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Jenn J.

Thank you for being vulnerable, Carly. I’m almost 32 years old (eek!) and suffer from anxiety. I never thought that at my age I’d be dealing with this. Certainly not something that I’d dream was a part of adulthood. Only through therapy, running, and really working at it, have I started to feel like it’s under control. You’re 100% right – anxiety lies underneath the surface ready to paralyze us. But by sharing and allowing us to connect on a human level, we can all have the courage to move forward. It’s
easy to say “ignore the comments” but
remember, they say more about that person than they do you. Sending you love and kindness.

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Lauren

Who ever posted that comment was definitely rude. And honestly I think most people have anxiety about certain things to some extent. Personally I get anxiety over public speaking, major life changes, and some times when I think about the future I somehow end up at the worst possible outcome that sometimes has no way of ever having the possibility to even be a reality. At the end of the day everyone has issues they deal with, and anxiety happens to be yours and there’s no shame in that. And judging by your blog it looks like you know how to do life right!

Lauren,
http://www.atouchofsoutherngrace.com

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kd

Good for you! You shouldn’t let internet trolls get you down (easier said than done I’m sure). Live your truth and keep being comfortable in your own skin!

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Nicolette

I’m glad you found this outlet for your anxiety, your writing is excellent and I completely agree with the sentiment expressed. Sometimes, we just wish there was someone like us in our lives so that we could have recognized the signs earlier. I’m sorry that person is belittling your experience. 🙁

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Michael @ Mile in My Glasses

I’m so sorry that you had to put up with someone being so rude in your inbox! I think it takes a lot of strength to be able to talk about something like anxiety online, and it’s so fantastic because there’s so many people (myself included) that can completely relate to that anxiousness and the struggle of it.

I hope you have a wonderful Wednesday,
Michael
https://www.mileinmyglasses.co.uk

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Karen

Your openness about your anxiety is completely appreciated! It’s difficult because it is one of those “invisible” disorders, so the effort and energy invested in being able to function is so easily dismissed or diminished. Reading about your ups and downs with anxiety has given me so much perspective, especially during the transition from college to work- your strength is amazing!

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Sarah

“La fortune sourit aux braves”

How many people do not allow for others to know about their anxiety! I think you are brave in allowing your readers to see that side of you. Do not listen to the negativity someone thrusts upon you because they are afraid themselves and need a pick-me-up through making someone else feel bad.

Thank you for this post and your wonderful blog!

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Ames

Love the post, Carly! Some of the things you’re talking about here sound a lot like the book I’m reading at the moment – it’s called First, We Make the Beast Beautiful by Sarah Wilson. I’ll admit I mostly bought it for the cover (story of my life, haha) but it’s really helped me accept that anxiety isn’t something that’s ever going to go away, but there are ways to be less afraid of the anxiety itself if that makes sense. Maybe something for you to check out on Goodreads?

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Andrea

Your experiences echo so much of what many of my successful, high-achieving girlfriends and I live and struggle with, and I think you write about it eloquently and insightfully. Please continue to be honest and open about your anxieties — we’re all in this together!!

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Chelsea Wilczek

Hi Carly,
I love reading your blog and have been for a few years now!! I really enjoyed reading this post because I feel like most people do suffer through some sort of anxiety and it helps so much to hear that you are not the only one with weird things that trigger anxiety, for me it is walking into any place that I have never been before. I think reading about others anxiety helps!

Lots of love,
Chelsea

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Michele McFadden

Even with the age difference, you inspire me everyday! Keep being you! You are beyond awesome :)))

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Amada

Hi Carly,
I have anxiety as well and also wish more people were open to talking about it. Anxiety impacts peoples life and can make even simple tasks hard. Thank you for writing about anxiety. It is nothing to be embarrassed about because more people have it than one thinks. This is a topic that people should not be afraid to address.
It is great to see somebody post about it!

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Katherine

Thank you for sharing this Carly! I have believed this for a long time, but especially since starting college last fall and seeing the way the world has been turning recently…if women don’t share stories with each other, no one else will provide that support. No matter what these stories are about (anxiety, feminism, etc), they are all so important. I have been following you since I was in high school and I love how honestly you write. Everyone struggles with anxiety to some degree, and yes it would be so nice if you could choose when you want to deal with it, but you can’t. So deal with it the way that works best for you 🙂

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Emily

Thank you so much for sharing. I really love the quote at the bottom, too. Recently, as we’ve gotten older, a lot of my friends have started opening up about their own struggles with anxiety and even depression. It’s been so important to talk about– putting it out doesn’t make you weaker, it makes you stronger and allows others to help strengthen you in the process.

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Jill

Thank you for sharing this. I feel like anxiety is misunderstood too! I wish more people would share that they do have anxiety then there would be less stigmas attached to it.

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Allison

You are brave. You writing about your anxiety is helping countless people not feel alone. Keep sharing, and do not allow anyone to discourage you with their
ignorance and spite.

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Taylor

Thank you so much for sharing this Carly. I also struggle with anxiety and it is often hard for those who don’t struggle to understand. It is sometimes the littlest and most insignificant things that I struggle to cope with and it can definitely be debilitating. I think it is so important for people to be open about it because it really does help and encourage others who are struggling.

Thank you again for sharing!

Taylor | http://www.livingtaylored.com

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CG

As a reader for years and someone who has also had a lifelong struggle with anxiety this post was an interesting read. No doubt what drew me to your blog many many years ago was that I related to your experiences. I see you noted lots of different ways to address anxiety I’d be interested to read about how you deal with your anxiety beyond “pushing through” or writing on the blog. I personally have been in and out of therapy since I was 8 processing different parts of my life but I also started taking medication about two years ago when my panic attacks became pretty severe. It took me a long time to be open to the idea but now I firmly believe I let myself struggle without help for far too long. Now when take my medication or go to therapy I always remind myself that I do it because life doesn’t have to be a grit-your-teeth-and-bear-it situation 24/7. Anyway, just thought it would be interesting to hear your personal experiences with things you mentioned like support groups, coping skills, etc.

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Kim from 3 peanuts

Carly,
I have suffered from mild anxiety from time to time (fear of flying and few other generalized things). And Harry suffers from it a lot (school stress mostly and perfectionism). It is refreshing to see a young person speak so openly about it. As you know I am a counselor and I know that talking/writing about these things does really help people. Not only you, but you are helping others everyday. Some people are judgey and they don’t know the whole story. It really annoys me when people with no psychological or professional education/experience diagnose and judge others. It does more harm than good. Try not to let it bother you and know that you are doing the very best for you. Honestly, I have seen you do so many brave things over the past year. You are making incredible progress. Keep growing. I know this is your job, but don’t worry about other people’s opinions. That is one nice thing about being my age. I care less and less what others think of me. Finally, I want to share about a vitamin/supplement that has made a HUGE difference for Harry. It is called L Theanine 150 MG (Solar brand). Amazon. I cannot even tell you the change we have seen in him. It was finals last week and he was not even stressed. There are no side effects and it has brought my smiley, happy Harry back. google it. Hugs. I am always a phone call away if you need to chat.

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Amy Bonsell

Don’t worry about that girl, I’m sure she suffers from anxiety as well, she just isn’t brave enough to admit it. I felt the same way growing up, that I would feel less alone and less crazy if I could share what I was feeling with someone. You are so brave to share your experiences like you do and I look up to you for it! Keep doing what helps you grow.

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Ingrid

I’ve been reading your blog daily for years, and what keeps me coming back is your candid spirit. No one’s life is perfect! Life is all about what we make of it, and everyone has struggles, whether it’s anxiety or something else. You set a great example of how to acknowledge and work through your anxiety, without letting it hold you back.

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Sam

I absolutely adore your openness about your struggles with anxiety. As a longtime sufferer of both anxiety and depression, it feels nice to see someone speak so openly about it. Even though you and I do not know each other offline, it’s very comforting to know that there’s someone else out there who “gets it!”

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Ally R

Hi Carly,
I am so glad you share all of your ups and downs! I 100% agree with you when you talk about growing up and wishing you knew one other person feeling the way you do. You are part of the solution!!
Have you seen Prince William and Princess Catherine talk about their mental health campaign? They are trying to remove the stigma that come with it and doing wonderful things. Nobody should be shamed for expressing their emotions!

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wendy

Not knowing the reader’s comments, maybe she wasn’t trying to be rude but her delivery was off? I, too, have anxiety, and share that with person, but i also share how I personally deal with it-a prescription, counseling in the past, and exercise. I find it refreshing when people share they are dealing with an anxiety and more so, when they indicate they are using treatment (counseling, meds, etc.) to deal with the anxiety. I try to convey to family and friends that its okay to get therapy and its okay to use a prescription to cope. The thing is, you (using a general you) can have anxiety and you can manage it. Perhaps that reader was trying to point that out? An anxious individual doesn’t have to feel scared or ill going into a gym, there are lots of coping techniques available. For me, it is helpful to read what others with anxiety to do cope, maybe you would be willing to share your techniques.

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Lindsay

Thank you for the honesty- much appreciated! I know I would benefit from a post about how you work to mitigate and control your anxiety and I think many of your other readers would as well. Is this something you plan on doing a post about?

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Kellie

The idea that someone would criticize you because of anxiety is ridiculous. I have struggled with anxiety and depression throughout my life and yeah, it does affect your daily life. As you said, duh.

And guess what? In my 30’s more and more people are opening up to me that they have had similar struggles. Sharing and being open is a great thing. People struggle, it affects their lives, and how people get help or deal with it is a personal decision because there isn’t one cure for all.

Basically those mean comments are from people who are idiots and don’t understand how anxiety works. Be proud of yourself!

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Annie

People really need to get a life. It’s sad because she’s probably dealing with her own issues by putting you down. I don’t personally suffer from anxiety, but I know those who do and everyone can relate to having certain things throw them into a tailspin of self-doubt. Keep doing you! I love your blog and look forward to ALL posts, not just the ones that I have personal experience with. <3

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Alyssa

Slow clap, girl… I’ve dealt with anxiety my entire life and really wish people would be more open about it! Like you, though, I’m “high functioning” so no one can tell unless I’m in a really stressful situation. But thank you for talking about it!!

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Christina

Your honesty and candor is always so
inspiring and I find myself nodding my head “yes” as I read. Those that comment flippantly about anxiety likely have the good fortune to not be plagued by it. As others have said, your posts are always so comforting to read as someone who also suffers from anxiety. Never let the negative comments discourage you – you are making the internet a more accepting, positive place and you should always feel proud of that!

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Consuela

Do not allow the miserable comments of someone stop you from daily healing yourself and helping so many other people…like me. I know what it’s like to suffer with IBS/anxiety and never know when it will attack you.

Regardless, pray to God and continue living your life! You inspire me!❤️

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Haley

I really appreciate how you talk about how someone can be “functioning,” but still be struggling under the surface. I deal with anxiety on a daily basis, and I truly wish more people understood what it is like.

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Elizabeth

“No one can make you feel inferior without your consent.” – Eleanor Roosevelt

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Sarah

I read your blog because you’re someone that I could see myself being friends with. Because I am outgoing and social, those close to me find it hard to understand that I feel so much anxiety, and it can be extremely frustrating to try and explain the complexities of those feelings. It’s great to read about someone who experiences the same thing. You’ve got a friend in Ohio!

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Lily R.

I love this post Carly and it couldn’t have come at the right time for me. So first, thank you for sharing. I’ve been on the job hunt beginning this year and haven’t had an offer yet. My anxiety has made me nervous and left me feeling no control over my career and life. The thing that should excite me the most that I get to do something I love for a living is causing me anxiety! And also I’ve learned about it’s duality. I’ve learned that even when things are going positive and I’m excited I still get anxious! Has anybody felt this way too? So I am learning to manage my anxiety as different as it is everytime. And trust that this is a phase and this too shall past. Thank you for these type of content Carly. It’s comforting to know I’m not the only one going through this.

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Maitland

Carly,

I struggle with anxiety as well. In college I would have panic attacks the night before tests and therapy was the only thing that helped. But I still battle feeling anxious about everything. A lot of people don’t understand the difference between being nervous about something every now and then, and being anxious all the time no matter what. We just start out with a little bit of anxiety regardless. Reading about your anxiety has helped me relate to you on a whole different level and is part of what makes me love your blog so much. Because you’re so successful, it doesn’t mean you don’t have anxiety, but that you’ve overcome that anxiety to do so well. Some people will never understand what we go through. You’ll be able to handle your anxiety, but this cruel girl will never be able to change the ugliness inside her. Keep your chin up!

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Hannah @ AndThenWeTried

Love your openness about your experience with anxiety! I tend to talk about my own anxiety and depression issues pretty openly, and while it makes some people uncomfortable I think talking about it is the first step towards normalizing it. So many people are dealing with anxiety (whether they realize it or not), and having the courage to share your story online is certainly helping at least one reader identify and cope with their own issues. While medication and therapy have been a huge help for me, talking about it openly is probably the most impactful change I made in my approach to managing my anxiety. Trying to hide it just makes it worse!

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Nicole

Never let anyone tell you anxiety is a negative thing. I grew up with anxiety that I didn’t know how to identify – which worsened with the pressure of prep school, college and law school; however, I have learned (1) how to identify and better manage my trigger settings and push myself out of my comfort zone without freaking out, and (2) that anxiety may make you more sensitive or outwardly awkward – but you are a more socially in-tune and aware person because of it!

Continue to be awesome and push yourself! xox Nicole

P.S. I commend you for blocking an online bully and not allowing that person to continue to hid behind a computer and try to hurt you and probably many others.

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Alyssa Karford

Hey girl! Anxiety is a totally real thing, perhaps that girl deals with bigger issues haha we will never know. It’s a breathe of fresh air to hear others battle with it too. Mine typically manifests with a fear monger mindset and biting my nails. It has a number of side effects as well. I hope that as we talk about it more it will become okay to openly confess and talk about. In my family it wasn’t okay to be anxious or nervous, it was looked upon as weakness and defiance. Which for parents can be scary. I am very outgoing and try lots of new things, but sometimes the worst moments are when I am alone with my thoughts worrying bahaha. First step is awareness right? Thank you so much for your courage and loveliness!!

Much Love,
Alyssa

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Polly

I love that you share very personal things on this blog. I too suffer from anxiety and love knowing that I am not alone and that you are very successful in spite of it! I also think that your openness about your personal life is part of what makes this blog so fun to read. At least for me, blogs with a personal voice are my favorite!

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Sandy

Carly, I am so sorry that someone was ugly to you. I will never understand why some people feel that a keyboard gives them carte blanche to be hurtful. Keep in mind what I tell my kids-when someone is mean to you, it says more about them than it does about you. I enjoy reading your blog and appreciate when you talk about the real, not perfect, parts of life. Keep up the good work!

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Tammy

Some people cannot get past their own short comings so they drag others down with them. I am 54 and have three people in my life like that and I have tried to please, dance around, and laugh at their mean and rude comments away in family settings. Believe me they don’t change for anyone, no matter how wrong they are or how badly they hurt you sadly. I have had anxiety a lot over the years, about 5 years ago I decided no more it’s funny when you don’t acknowledge their rudeness it deflates them very quickly. One of them is so bad I just don’t go around her anymore.
But at some point I have to say I matter I need to live, love and be happy. Sometimes the doubt creeps back in but I know
I’m happier 😃
So don’t acknowledge those uglies because in the end we are responsible for our own lives just as they are responsible for theirs.
I choose joy and things that make me feel that way. That’s why I choose to follow your blog.
So here’s to you, thanks!

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Ally

Thank you so much for sharing your experiences (both in this post and others). I’ve also struggled with anxiety for a long as I can remember (as a child I was described ‘excitable’ and ‘high strung’) and I’m a big proponent of talking about it, so that others understand that it’s something that people have and deal with every day. I really appreciate that you choose to be public about it, because that helps to transform anxiety from a scary, hush-hush thing into something that’s part of life for some people, which can be managed.

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Gra

Maybe this is a no-no but would you ever consider writing more about your anxiety? In terms of what has helped and what has not? I’ve had anxiety for a while now and am seeking many outlets of therapy (med and counseling). I find medication dose nothing for me, but counseling is where I get the most help. I know everyone is different and has different struggles but i’d like to hear from others.

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Rachel Lucia

Thank you for this! I relate 1000%. Anxiety is and always will be a part of my life. How we choose to deal with it is what’s most important. Thank you for putting yourself out there and sharing your struggles with this community. This kind of dialogue is so important and so necessary! You are not alone in this battle!

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Evelina

Oh how I wish I had your blog to read when I was in college and just starting out!!! I feel like those that find your blog are blessed to know that there are others out there that struggle with issues as well as have successes that they can be proud of. Keep doing what you want to do because its your blog after all. I keep forwarding your link to my friends with kids in college and graduating – you are a great role model and how lucky are you to be able to see how far you’ve come through your posts!!! Enjoy your trip and keep up your good – and important – work!

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Donna

Many, many people I know have anxiety. I have driving anxiety. I can’t drive when there is too much traffic it gives me terrible anxiety. Social situations and public speaking are also very hard for me. Try not to let haters get you down. There are a lot of people just like you!

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Allison

I struggle with anxiety too and while I love all your posts, the ones that really resonate are when you’re being real and sharing your anxiety. And while I hate that you struggle with it too, it’s nice that you’re so successful and high functioning and can still relate. I hope that didn’t sound insulting, I just meant I really like these posts!

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A

Anxiety is very common, and yes you are helping others I’m sure by sharing your experience. But, I will say, as a sufferer myself, not only sharing the experience but promoting the idea of seeking professional help is also something I wish you would touch on. I don’t know if you work with a professional, or take medication (I do both, as it is best to pair the two), and you don’t need to/or disclose that. But I feel that if you are discussing this, it would be responsible to give suggestions on how to seek professional treatment/support as well. There are many, many young readers of your blog, and I think letting them know that it is ok to feel like they can’t do this on their own would be a big step. Inspirational quotes and a drive to manage it aren’t enough. I do see that you have one sentence regarding professional help, but I would be more than impressed to see an entire post on help, support and information. Just an idea, not a criticism.

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Hannah Olson

Thanks so much, Carly, for being open and honest! It encourages and helps everyone else, too 🙂

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Meredith Hoffman

Thank you for being so forth coming because you are right – MANY do struggle with it as well, like me and to see what maybe you do that helps, can help others. Good for you for pushing through and being a platform to anyone else you can help out there – as you are NOT alone and are stronger for it!

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Meredith

Thank you for being so forth coming because you are right – MANY do struggle with it as well, like me and to see what maybe you do that helps, can help others. Good for you for pushing through and being a platform to anyone else you can help out there – as you are NOT alone and are stronger for it!

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Meghan

Can relate so much to what you said here, C! I’ve had anxiety since high school and it is a constant struggle but it does truly help when we know we’re not alone! <3 you!

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Caitlin

It’s so refreshing how open and honest you are about your life. Unfortunately there will always be people who try to hurt others, but it doesn’t even put a dent into the people you have helped so many people by sharing your struggles honestly. Keep up the good work <3
xo, Caitlin
http://thesolcompass.com

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Emily Weir

It amazes me that people still attack others for having anxiety. All of us face it at different points, and all of us have different methods for handling it. Kudos for being honest on how you feel, regardless of others feeling the need to bring you down for it.

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Jessica

Hi Carly. I’ve never commented on your blog before, but I’ve been reading it for 5 years. I found it when I was a senior in high school and you were writing advice about college. I followed you through your senior year, moving to NY, moving to Connecticut, and everything along the way. In a weird way, I always felt like our lives mirrored each others! So many times, your blog posts would be just what I was thinking about or struggling with. And often I felt like you were an older mentor to me (even though you didn’t know who I was) because our struggles seemed to be similar – adjusting to university, anxieties, relationships, etc. I also have a lot of anxiety and hearing you share about it has always helped me to feel more ‘normal’ and encourage me to keep trying things that scare me. A ship is safe in harbour, but that’s not what ships are for.

Thank you everything,
xx

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Jessica

I think it’s FANTASTIC that you’re writing about your anxiety. So so so so many people have it, and it’s very isolating. I think talking about it is very brave and it’s very honest, and it has surely helped others feel less alone. (I also think that this kind of authenticity makes your writing better — people want to connect with other humans on a real level, even ones we don’t know in real life.) It’s very easy to take one critical comment to heart and forget 100 kind ones, but that reader, quite simply, was wrong-headed.

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Theresa Magliozzi

I also struggle with anxiety and it is so helpful to know you’re not alone. I think it’s great you open up about your experiences. I’m sorry you have people that leave those rude comments to try and make you feel badly about yourself. Thank you for always opening up to us and being venerable. Love you and your blog!

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Hannah

I also appreciate your candor! I just finished law school (currently studying for the Bar #yikes) and it’s really helpful to see/read how other people address their anxiety while pursuing their own goals.

I recently took an enneagram (personality test of sorts; I recommend the RHETI) and then read the book “The Road Back to You.” It seemed a little new-agey, but it helped me identify why I feel anxious most of the time: I’m a through-the-roof Six. I operates on anxiety like other types operate on adrenaline or being people-pleasers. It was a bummer to realize that my anxiety is part of who I am and not situational (i.e., law school related). But the book also pointed out a lot of the strengths associated with this type: logical thinking, loyalty, risk-aversion, (over) preparedness, etc. It also offers growth tendencies to manage anxiety in a healthy way.

Obviously people are more than just one “type”; we’re all very complex. But it provided some much needed perspective on an otherwise-believed character flaw.

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Alexandra

Your bravery and honesty are appreciated more than you know. I similarly struggle with anxiety, and have recently made the choice to be more open about it among my peers. Like you, I’ve realized how many people are affected by this in secret. It is so empowering to share our experiences – somehow, anxiety’s power is diminished for me when I connect with another who is also going through the same thing. Thank you for this post. I admire you so much!

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Lauren

Thank you for sharing Carly 🙂 Anxiety also colors almost every aspect of my life. I always appreciate hearing other’s experiences with anxiety. And sometimes having anxiety creates opportunity and at other times it can close doors. Thank you for sharing the positives and negatives and for your honesty.

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Kaitlin

Had no idea someone would react that way to your posts. I think you balance the amount you share with your followers really well…plus I will say I think a large part of the reason I’ve followed you for so long isn’t actuallythe clothes and cool travels, but rather being able to see someone who also has anxiety issues be able to tackle the world successfully. I’ve always appreciated your blog& your perspective. I’m finishing up college now and have followed you the whole way through, as well as in HS when I was first seeking help for anxiety related issues. Thank you for this post and for being true to you!

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Krystal // The Krystal Diaries

The nerve of some people. There will always be that person who wants to bring someone else down and is just plain rude. I see absolutely nothing wrong with sharing your anxiety struggles. You never know who you’re helping by sharing.

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Ali

Carly, this post made me tear up because it was so encouraging. You are not alone and you reminded me that I am not either. Your transparency reminds me it is OK to be open about my struggles and to share them with others – that’s how we all get to grow together. Seeing you embrace the challenges and the successes together is why I love to read your stories. I always feel encouraged by your posts. Thanks again xo

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Tori A.

This post was exactly what I needed to read this morning. I was preparing to enter an environment that is a large source of anxiety for me, and reading this post (especially the quote you included) made me feel infinitely more courageous. Thank you, Carly!

Tori A. from Prep For A Day

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Jessica

Hi Carly

People show their worst by being rude to each other. Believe me, all struggles make you better. And as long as you are conscious about it and how you will take control of it, things will take you back to the road with positive and happy thoughts. Then good feelings and blessings come more obvious. All depends how filled we want to see the glass or how rainy we want our days.
Nobody is perfect, no body is better, and I hope this let more people understand that we need to stand next to each other, because you never know when you will them too. No matter color, race…
I have anxiety too in a different way and it’s horrible, my younger brother deals with it and now I feel bad because he have been dragged by others with bad comments, bullying and making fun of him. It is horrible how bad the world can be…
Our journey continues…keep doing yoga, meditations, keep lovely people around you and don’t be afraid of what people may think. You are blessed in so many ways!
I wish you the best! you bring me joy with your pics and blog. Cya!

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Marlene

Please don’t let someone discourage you. You are such an example and encouragement by telling what you are feeling is truly a blessing to many. Everyone faces anxiety at sometime in there life. You are amazing and bless you for being who you are!

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Audrey | Brunch at Audrey's

Everyone’s experience is unique, so who’s to say how you feel or what your truth is? Nobody knows better than yourself! I think mental issues have been more openly talked about in the last few years thanks to the Internet providing a platform for everyone. Whereas in the past some people might have regarded anxiety as something you could control and just “get over,” many people now understand that it isn’t as easy as that, and it is a valid mental issue that people cope with. Not everyone understands that, but by keeping the conversation open, more people can learn and understand 🙂 Thank you for always being so honest, and thank you for sharing your vulnerabilities and showing your courage! -Audrey | Brunch at Audrey’s

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Becca

LOVE this!! thank you for your honesty!! the first post that you wrote about your anxiety a few years ago actually inspired me to open up more about my own. you’re great to address it, and continue to address it as something that exists and not just something to get over.

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Lori

Carly, thank you for expressing yourself as you do. I admire you and others that are able to put into words what everyone else feels, one way or another on a regular basis. Sharing your life, photography, style & bits of wisdom takes courage. Take comfort in knowing so many of us stand beside you!

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Courtney

Carlie, I’ve followed your blog for yearssssss, and you are my absolute favorite blogger. It may or may not mean anything to you that you are my fav blogger, but know that I have followed a lot of blogs and they all seem to change like seasons, but YOU are true to who you are, genuine, and a humble person. I KNOW IT. I know what I know because of what you write about yourself and seeing you live and in color on Instagram. I have anxiety too and it’s very similar to what you described as how you feel. I cope with my anxiety by boxing and self-defense. I have had to learn to remain decently calm in situations that I shouldn’t be freaking out about. I don’t know anything about anxiety, but I know I have it and I box to keep it in check. I wish you the best, Carlie. I’m always cheering you on!

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Ashlee

I struggle with anxiety, and reading your honest posts encourages me because I know that I am not alone, and I use your posts as inspiration to push through my fears! Thank you!

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Claire P

As someone who suffers from anxiety, especially in social situations thank you for being so open and honest about your anxieties. It’s so nice (and inspiring!) to see that you haven’t let them stop you from doing things and achieving what you want in life.

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Stephanie Grace

Again, another inspiring post from yours truly, Carly. Although, I don’t struggle with anxiety, I really do appreciate you being able to openly talk about this on your blog. It’s really nice to know that someone you look up to doesn’t just want to show the high points of their life but also share the lows. Because when someone is able to do that it shows how willing they are to make a true connection with people they don’t even know! Carly, I wish you the absolute best, and may God bless!

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Chelsea

Thank you for writing this, and for being so open about your struggles with anxiety and overcoming it. I have anxiety too and always feel like I’m the only one who stresses talking to new people or going to a new gym class. It’s so helpful and relieving to know someone I look up to (YOU!) also go through similar struggles, and it’s inspiring to see how much you’ve accomplished and how you’ve faced this head on. I’m sorry people have been rude about it, but I’m sure there are far more who are so happy and relieved to know they’re not alone in this.

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Liz

Thank you for sharing this with all of us. You are an inspiration and with the stigma around mental health it is so important to share our experiences with it to family/friends/strangers. Thank you for being you and for being honest with your readers. We all appreciate it and I’m so thankful I came across your blog a few years back while I was at my lowest in college. You talking about your struggles have helped me with my own anxiety and depression. For that, and for the many others you have helped, thank you!

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Valerie

Thank you so much for being open about your anxiety! I have bad anxiety that I have been working through since I was 10 (24 now). Some days are better than others, but it really helps to be open about it. I’ve found a lot of other people struggle with the same issues and you are not alone!

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Joanna

Thank you for being real on your blog. You have so many gifts and talents. I love how you want to help others! Keep being you!

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Katie

I cannot tell you how much I relate to this. When you’re high-functioning and successful, people think you’re just being dramatic or attention-seeking when you say that you’re struggling. It’s definitely still a daily challenge to manage, but you get up and go regardless!

It’s so important to TALK ABOUT IT and I wish when I was in high school and college I’d found someone openly talking about it the way you do. Instead, I just felt like I had to bury it. I got really great at having a panic attack in the bathroom, getting myself back together, and pretending to be fine.

Please don’t let one bad apple ruin something so valuable for so many people!

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Nicole

I’m grateful to say I’ve never had to struggle with anxiety, but in my job and extracurriculars I come to know a lot of girls who do. Your openness and positivity has been a huge source of understanding for me. Thank you for choosing to share and be a positive figure to so many!

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Meg

Thank you. As someone who’s anxiety rears its ugly head on a daily basis, I really appreciate you sharing your experiences. It really is nice to know that I am not alone.

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Chelsea

This is so helpful, Carly. I see a lot of myself in you when I read your posts, especially when they are personal like this one. Keep being yourself and not being afraid of vulnerability!

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Jen

I’ve been following you for…”a hundred years”, as my golf partners say. I love you. Thank you for your honesty. We all work through the same stuff.

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Jan

Karma is a beautiful thing, look out rude person! Keep choosing joy your blog is amazing.

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Devon

Carly, you are such an inspiration! Knowing that someone as successful and wonderful as you deals with anxiety definitely helps out your readers, I know it helps me! Just knowing that there are other people out there who feel the same way is instantly comforting. You are amazing and strong, and I aspire to be like you one day because you are an amazing role model!

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Hayleigh Shobar | Young Cosmopolite

I read this post and want to scream “YES!” I had never experienced the pains of anxiety until college — it’s physically gut-wrenching and frankly, debilitating. I’m lucky because my experiences have been manageable, but I am so appreciative for posts like this that don’t sugarcoat and just lay everything on the line. You wear your heart on your sleeve, Carly! I’m so glad all those years ago you started TCP.

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Paige

Seriously thank you for writing this post! It was just the thing I needed to read today after the anxiety filled one I had! Thank you, thank you! It is always comforting to know that you are not the only one who is experiencing it!

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dbt

honestly, I’m pretty successful in my career, have great friends, love my pets, love my family, etc etc etc — and I still struggle with clinical anxiety! It has literally nothing to do with your value as a person…. That commenter is incredibly rude and needs to get a life. I love that you share your anxiety — it makes me feel less alone. People don’t understand there’s a difference between “oh sometimes I feel anxious about a big deal” and suffering from an anxiety disorder. The other day, I cancelled plans because I got so stressed out about finding a place to park. How ridiculous?! That’s anxiety brain….

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Mary Cate

Carly, I can’t tell you enough how much I appreciate your openness on your blog. I’ve had anxiety all my life and had no idea what it was until I was in high school. Reading your posts brings me so much comfort and helps me realize that I’m not alone, and not totally crazy, haha! Your determination to not let anxiety get in the way of leading a happy and successful life is very inspiring to me. Thank you!

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Reader!

I think there is an important distinction between being nervous and fearful and being anxious that needs to be made more clear. I would hate for everyone to think that if they are nervous about ordering in restaurants then they have anxiety, which may be the case for your younger and more confused readers. I am a longtime reader who has never commented, and would love to see you address how you deal with these distinctions – especially as someone in the public eye accessible to young girls dealing with these issues. I understand anxiety looks different for everyone, but the title of your post is “pushing through fear” which makes it a bit confusing in my mind re: blurring the lines on anxiety, fear and nervousness. Maybe an idea for another post. I think it is your duty to your uninformed readers to really define these lines as you have the potential to really affect so many people.

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Georgia

Carly, your candidness is uplifting and makes me smile. There seem to be few bloggers who display their authenticity in the incredible manner that you do, and I am grateful for your bravery!

(p.s. all your pictures from Paris are lovely)

xo, Georgia

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Bridget

I just started reading your blog daily a few months ago, and one of the reasons why is because I struggle with anxiety like you do too. When I first stumbled upon your blog it was so refreshing to see a blogger like you being open with your struggles. Thank you for sharing your stories openly, they really do insprire me. Keep on doing what you are doing Carly! You are incredible!

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Phoebe

Please never stop posting about what’s authentic to you! I know it helps when people with anxiety share their experiences. Zoella is one of the most famous Youtubers, and she does a lot of videos about her anxiety too. It helps normalize it when other people talk about it, and people who leave comments like that will always be closed-minded and mean. Don’t ever let them get to you!!

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Kelly Allen

You are such a strong woman, Carly. Thank you for sharing what you do and posting about your personal struggles as well. I can’t even imagine having to read nasty comments like that and I’m sorry that some people feel the need to tear you down. Keep on keepin’ on!

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Taylor Smith

Never let anyone tell you how you should feel! Anxiety affects all aspects of life and isn’t something that can just be switched off. You rock for being able to talk about it publicly. You’re truly never alone!

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Deb

You are doing a wonderful thing being open and honest about your experiences with anxiety! You are right, there are people all around you who are dealing with it and you make them fell less alone and like they can manage!

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Alex

Yes! Thank you for writing this! I have anxiety too as well as depression and it does affect every aspect of my life (to the point that some people say I’m crazy because I won’t do certain things like go to concerts or visit really crowded places or will just stay in my apartment for an entire day. But being open about it both directly to friends and family and online has helped not only myself but also people I’ve never met feel they aren’t alone and that’s exactly what you’re doing here, so thanks 🙂

P.S. we both went to Plant in Tampa but I’m a few years younger than you!

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Beth Daggett

Carly, I am so glad that you are brave enough to speak out about your experience with anxiety. I have dealt with anxiety and panic disorder my entire life it seems. I started having panic attacks when I was in the 6th or 7th grade. I start to get shaky and feel like I can’t breath and I feel like I am going to die. I have been to the emergency room many times thinking that I was having a heart attack. This last year, my panic attacks got even worse, so bad that I felt like I was having all day panic attacks. I was also very sick to my stomach and couldn’t eat anything. I thought that I had something majorly wrong with me, and I have seen several doctors who all diagnosed me with heartburn and anxiety. I DID NOT want to accept the fact that it was my anxiety that was causing me so much trouble, but I started taking Zoloft, Trazadone for sleep, and the occasional Xanax when I have seriously bad attacks or can’t fall asleep because of my anxiety. I am starting to feel better, even though I still deal with feelings of panic and anxiety. There is nothing that really causes me to have these feelings, they are just there. My mom and dad both have anxiety, and so does my sister, and I know my grandfather had it too. It’s not something I like to talk about, and honestly, sometimes I would rather have something majorly wrong with me so then I wouldn’t have to tell people that it’s “just anxiety.” I am the type of person that likes to keep up appearances. I am very much a perfectionist and I like people to see me as “perfect”. So I dress nicely, do my makeup and hair every day, put on a brave face and a smile, and try not to let anyone see that I am actually a wreck inside. But it feels so good to talk about it, especially with others who know what I am going through. So thanks again Carly for speaking up and for sharing your experiences with anxiety.

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Mandy

Carly,
I started reading your blog at an extremely low point for me (first semester of college as well…) while trying to keep myself from hitting rock bottom. I struggle with anxiety as well, and particularly in that tumultuous time, your blog gave me something I could look forward to each day, and provided some instance or regularity and familiarity into a life that hardly felt like mine. Your openness about your struggle (particularly about your first semester of college) gave me something I could relate to, something I may not have known I needed. Now a few years later, although I still struggle with anxiety regularly, I’m happier than I’ve been in quite some time, and you constantly serve as a reminder and a role model for not letting anxiety define you. I so appreciate you for changing the narrative, as well as for so openly sharing your world with us.
Thank you, Carly!

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Hanna

Love this Carly! I have functioning anxiety as well and I loved how you opened up to everyone and put it all out on the line. It’s so great how transparent you are with your readers! The thing I always tell myself when I’m feeling overwhelmed by something (especially small things) is that once I do it, it’s over. I tend to overwhelm myself with the idea of doing something and work myself up, so I always have to remember is that this thing I’m worried about will take a minute of my life and then I will be okay after. Thanks again for being one of my favorite bloggers! You’re killing it girl! 🙂

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Gabby

Thanks for this post Carly! So many struggle with anxiety in one way or another, and showing your readers that is okay and that so many others can relate is really powerful coming from your place of influence. <3

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Lauren

Thanks for being open about your daily struggles. I do struggle with anxiety which effects my daily life. As a recent college grad, it unfortunately affects finding a job. I know there isn’t a cure but I think being open is the closest thing to a cure. I too hit a point where I thought it was controlling my every move, so I wrote an article about it. I would be honored if your read it. It’s about the difference between having anxiety and people saying they are anxious. https://www.theodysseyonline.com/anxious-versus-anxiety/details

Have a lovely day!

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Benjamin A. Pete

Carly,

I’ve been following you for a while and I’ve never left a comment. However, I just wanted to say that I think it’s great you write posts about your anxiety and fears. It’s important for others who might not have a lot of knowledge about how anxiety affects people to hear stories like yours. Also, like you said, I’m positive that there are a lot of people who suffer from anxiety who can look at someone as successful as you realize they are not alone.

My wife suffers from anxiety and it’s been a learning process for me and humbling as well. It’s helped me empathize and realize everyone’s struggle is different. Just because something is easy for me, doesn’t mean I should judge if it’s a struggle for someone else. Even if it is calling to schedule an appointment (my wife), or in your case, ordering at a restaurant.

Thank you again for sharing. Statistically, I’m probably a person you’d least expect to be reading your blog lol, but you’ve inspired me and I love your work.

God Bless.

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Brittany

Whiskey Tango Foxtrot?! Why would someone do that? I work in a high school, and several of my students have anxiety.. it’s a real thing! Thanks for being so open.. You’re totally right, it needs to be talked about more.

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Heather Hawkins

Thank you so much for sharing! I started a blog about a year ago and constantly struggle with the fear of oversharing personal topics but they are truly what I feel called to write about. The only thing worse than struggling is struggling in secret and I so appreciate your transparency!

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allison

long time reader, 1st time commenting! surprisngly (or maybe not…) we have quite a few things in common – i believe we’re around the same age (27ish?), my long term relationship ended around the same time as yours (or at least around the same time you shared it on here) & i fight anxiety everyday. i find the anxiety itself to be exhausting, but the hiding of the anxiety is even moreso. constantly acting like i’m fine, pulled together, content, happy .. it’s taxing, but somehow i prefer it over being vulnerable and honest with other people.

i saw the breakup coming and so my anxiety was very heightened during the last few months of it. when it finally happened, i felt so much relief. of course there were good days and bad days that followed, but for the most part my anxiety had subsided and i figured it was gone for good, that the only reason it was around was because of my relationship and now that *that* was over, my constant feelings of worry and stress would be, too. well – 9 months later and at the beginning of a new (much healthier and happier) relationship, i’ve been proven wrong. it’s back in full force and all i want to do is metaphorically (and sometimes literally) lay. down.

it’s disheartening to feel like you’ve scaled a mountain, taken in the view from the top & cruised on down the other side, only to find yourself in a valley, staring ahead at another seemingly insurmountable peak. what i try and remind myself (daily, sometimes hourly) is that if i’m willing to ask for help, intentionally practice self-care, focus on MY path and not the many many paths of those around me, and stop to take in the view every once in a while – the peak is in fact surmountable.

hang in there. on the days it feels like too much, let it be too much and go easy on yourself. on the days where you’re feeling great, remember to take note of what has you feeling great and surround yourself with more of that in the days to come.

from one anxious-quarter-life-crisis survivor to another – be well 🙂

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Angela @ WittyAspriations

It takes courage to discuss our weaknesses and demons. These things that can make us feel so alone. It’s a day by day, hour by hour, or even minute by minute struggle for so many (myself included). Thank you for sharing your personal journey. And someone who feels the need to constantly be negative clearly has his/her own issues to deal with!

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Jill

Thanks for sharing! This reminds me of my awesome friend who battles anxiety as well and has developed http://listenlucy.org/ as a creative outlet to write and get it all out there to work on accepting yourself and others! #theacceptancemovement

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gina

i love this. i struggle with anxiety as well and i feel like this is a very real and accurate way of putting how it really is to live with such a paralyzing fear. i respect that you came public with this and totally relate to you 🙂

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Katie

Carly, I really appreciate your openness and honesty when talking about your mental health! As someone who has also struggled with anxiety throughout my life, I appreciate those who talk about it openly and honestly. And as someone who works with kids in schools dealing with anxiety and other concerns, its nice have examples of individuals who are successful but not perfect!

Also all of your Paris pictures make me nostalgic! My best friend and I adore Paris!

–Katie

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Maggie Buchanan

I first discovered your blog when I was a freshman in College. Like most freshman I was reinventing myself and trying to figure out who I was. I found everything about you inspirational. Your style, your motivation, everything. I say all that to help you understand how much it meant to find out that a woman I looked up to, struggled with anxiety too! Please don’t ever stop sharing your triumphs and struggles. Your encouraging, honest words will have a greater impact on the world than her hate.

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Jackie

Just what I needed to read! I’m adding the FDR quote to my favorites. Another one by Georgia O’Keefe: I’ve been absolutely terrified every moment of my life – and I’ve never let it keep me from doing a single thing I wanted to do.”

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Clarissa

You are truly inspiring! I deal with anxiety myself and knowing someone has the courage to talk about it openly without fear or shame makes me feel less alone. Thank you for sharing and letting people know they aren’t alone in this. Keep doing what you’re doing and take each day as it comes.

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Madison

Thank you for this! And for being so boldly, wonderfully you in the face of anxiety. You’re my favorite.

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Bryelle

I never fully admitted to myself that I had anxiety (it was pretty clear, but ah – denial) until last year. I went to the doctor for heart palpitations and when the doctor said it was anxiety and it sunk in, it made complete sense.

I remember recalling one of your earlier posts about your anxiety during that time and it honestly soothed me, as I’ve been following your blog for years and years. Knowing you’re kicking butt and managing to continue your success through the struggle is inspiring. Thank you for continuing to share and for being real about it. Your words really do help.

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Stephanie Dill

I’ve struggled with anxiety for nearly 20 years. The first panic attack I can remember was when I was 8 years old. It took me a long time to name what was wrong with me, and even longer to talk about it. I have a pretty good handle on most of my triggers (I can’t go to IKEA alone), but there are still days it’s hard to get out of bed. Knowing there are others out there helps me talk about it. Being able to share posts like yours with people in my life when I tell them about what I go through is incredibly helpful. Ignore this person, she clearly has her own battles she is fighting and avoiding.

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xyz

I absolutely love this post. You have no idea how much this means to me. Thank you so much for sharing.

Blessings xo

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Faith Harris-Pettigrew

Thank you for being brave enough to share this Carly. I had no idea how common anxiety is or how difficult & crippling it can be until I met my husband five years ago. It’s such a comfort to others who suffer from anxiety hearing that they aren’t crazy & others feel the same.

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Molly Page

Thank you for your willingness to be open and transparent about your journey with anxiety! I battle it myself, from very specific (weather-based anxiety after having my neighborhood destroyed in an F-5 tornado 6 years ago) to more broad-based. It is so helpful to connect with your journey; because I also can “seem” fine and successful and happy and great and talented and all those other words that seem helpful but really just make you feel it even more acutely.

So thank you, thank you, thank you.

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Jessica

Hi Carly, I’ve been reading your blog for a while now but this is the first time I’m posting a comment. First off, I love your blog and your perspective on life! Second, I think that anxiety affects all women. Or at least all of the women I know! Society places so much pressure on being a female it’s only natural that anxiety would result from that. Anyways – I get anxious about all sorts of things myself and I’ve always considered it normal. I guess what I want to say is that I admire you, I think you’re doing an amazing job doing what you love, anxiety is normal!, and don’t let mean comments get you down. Or to paraphrase a Taylor Swift quote I often tell my five year old daughter “don’t you worry your pretty little mind, people throw rocks at things that shine.”

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Julie

The fact that you are real about anxiety is just one more reason I frequent your blog. The month of May the Child Mind Institute published #myyoungerself videos on youtube where celebs spoke openly about their own mental health journal and how normal it is. Emma Stone’s and Jenny Jaffe’s are particularly inspiring – just like you.

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Katy

Wonderful post, thank you for sharing! I’ve been reading your blog for 6+ years now (wow!)– keep up what you are doing you rock!!

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Lisa

I loved you before, but now I love you even more! Somehow, when a person reveals their innermost struggles and are honest like this, it resonates with me and makes me appreciate and value them even more. So I didn’t think I could like you more than I did, but now I do! Haha. Keep being you, Carly!

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Anna Roberts

I got back from the doctors the other week , and as it turns out these past two years of ‘low-blood iron’ symptoms as diagnosed by my previous practitioner were actually ‘mild anxiety attacks’ that had culminated into being constantly ‘sick’ for the past five months.

I’m a country girl, and where I live you don’t get ‘stressed’. You ‘deal’ with your tangible problems, not the inexplicable anxiety, at least not until it eventually manages to manifest itself into physical symptoms.

I’ve been reading your blog on and off, esh… for at least 5 years now, and having read your posts prior, you were the first person I thought of. The way you approach and deal with your anxiety is straight forward, you’re not looking for sympathy, and you’re not using it as an excuse. You make people feel like they can address their problem without having to feel bad about it, blow it out of proportion, or wallow in it and I think that takes an extraordinary perspective and personality. Especially one that can take a negative comment, and turn it into a positive post, without tolerating the ‘Nancy’ in the room.

Love your finale quote; Keep doing what you’re doing, it’s working!

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Samantha

This. Is. Everything. It is very rarely that I read something that really speaks to me and this post did it. Thank you for being so strong and willing to share your experience, it is always nice to see that those of us who struggle with anxiety issues don’t have to go at it alone. You rock, Carly.

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Jolene

Whoever left you that comment(s) obviously doesn’t know how anxiety works or what its like. I personally suffer from panic disorder (since I was a teenager) and am on disability for it. Like you blogging helps me express myself. I didn’t have anyone in school that really understood what I was going through. Keep your head up and don’t let rude comments get you don’t. I for one know exactly what its like to live with anxiety (and panic attacks) on a daily basis.

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