Anyone else feel the quarter life crossroads?!
I have felt like I was facing a quarter life crisis before. The time I most felt like I was facing one was when I was graduating from college and wasn’t sure what the next step was. Now, I look back and think sheesh! everyone is telling the truth, life really does have a way of working itself out. I know I will face similar thought cycles throughout my life– but even still, I really do feel like I’m facing what is a real quarter life crisis now.
I actually think that maybe crisis is too dramatic of a word. Crossroads is a much more positive and accurate description. So let’s rephrase: I’m facing a quarter life crossroads.
I never in a million years would have guessed that this is what my life would look like at 25. While it’s impossible to know for sure what the future holds, my life right now is so far from what I ever could have imagined.
When I was in college, I had a(n admittedly naive) 13 year plan. I thought I’d graduate college, move to NYC, work in a very corporate 9-5 job where I’d aggressively climb the corporate latter, and maybe (just maybe) get married and consider children when I was 35.
Starting a business was something I knew I’d eventually do, but never thought I’d be working for myself at 24. I had casually dated, but without experience with a serious boyfriend didn’t think I’d meet the right person for a long time. I thought NYC would be where I’d live and work through my 20s, as I grew my family, as I aged…
Needless to say, I’m in a place I never expected. It’s wonderful and challenging at times– as life might be for anyone in their 20s. It’s occasionally glamorous and often beautifully mundane. It’s put together so well one minute and unraveling the next.
In conversations with a few of my close friends, I know I’m not the only one in this boat. There’s a mutual feeling of restlessness mixed with an almost primal desire to nest. I have friends switching careers, quitting jobs, moving across the country. I have friends buying houses, tying the knot, and giving birth to firstborns. I have friends celebrating their youth with carefree spirit into the early mornings and then heading into the office at 8am for a conference call.
The whole thing is strange. It used to feel impossible to see how small decisions added up to a Life, and now it all seems way too tangible. Instead of it feeling like a crisis though, it really does feel like a crossroads. An exciting, thrilling crossroads.