I’ve tried to write this post a handful of times and keep coming up short. Sometimes I have no problem summing up how I feel, but this not one of those times! I’ve really struggled to put into words everything that I am feeling. Even trying to write it out personally in my journal is hard, so I know it’s not just because I’m making a public announcement.
The very, very bottom line is that I am incredibly excited about this move.
My boyfriend and I are moving into a great apartment in Hoboken together. He currently lives there, and we’re moving into a new place just down the road. I haven’t introduced him on my blog out of respect for his privacy, but we met over a year ago through a mutual friend who set us up on a blind date. We got together after work one day. I was just trying to get back into the dating game after my breakup; I was not expecting to meet someone I wanted to be in a relationship with. Our first date was in the city and he discovered that I actually lived in Connecticut and I discovered that he lived in New Jersey. I walked into the date 10 minutes late (whoops) and the second I saw him, I remember thinking, “Oh no…” He was so cute and I felt attracted to him pretty much immediately. We talked for hours (still debating who did the most talking… 😉) and made plans to see each other the following weekend. And then the next… and then the next.
I would not consider our relationship long distance because even though we haven’t lived in the same state, we’ve only been about 35 miles apart. It is a long 35 miles though because it involves driving through the city and spending about $30 on tolls for a round trip. I think we both got to a point where we wanted to live, at the very least, near each other. Even something as simple as getting dinner on a weeknight was nearly impossible between the location and his work.
I think the thing I’m looking the most forward to is being in a normal routine together. There has been so much logistical planning on when and how we see each other (especially with my two little pups!) so it will be a relief not to have to worry about that anymore!
When I moved to Connecticut three years ago, I didn’t expect to love it as much as I did. I figured it was just the logical next step when you get tired of the city (which I very much was). Now that I’m leaving (my boyfriend’s job requires him to be in NJ right now and his entire family lives there), I’m really going to miss it. The three things that stand out to me the most: being down the street from the beach, my dog’s boarding place, and my gym.
I know that sounds kind of lame to type out, but I’m REALLY going to miss my gym. Mostly because I’ve made fun friends through the class I take and it’s been an inspiring part of my life for the past year and a half. We have a little community and I’m going to miss them a lot. I know I’m going to see my friends from Connecticut often because we’ll make the time to meet up in the city a bunch and see each other at blogger events, but I probably won’t see my gym friends again. With that said, I’m looking forward to joining a new gym in Hoboken. I’ve already been asking around and there are a few places I want to check out in person, but I’d love to hear your recommendations if you’re from the area!
And the place where my dogs board has also been such a godsend; they love Hamilton and Teddy like their own. It’s such a huge blessing to find great care for your pets as I’m sure any pet owner can understand. My little guys were so, so spoiled there and I am anxious to find a place/person/company in Hoboken who can fill that void. Again, if anyone knows of a place, please please please leave a comment or shoot me an email!
So… Am I excited about Hoboken?!
In a lot of ways, I really am! There are some things that I’m not thrilled about that I feel like I have to be pretty honest about. (And it’s not a surprise to my boyfriend because we’ve obviously had these conversations haha) The biggest one is that we’re renting an apartment. Of course, it makes the most sense to rent because of where we are in our relationship, plus I don’t want to buy in Hoboken (although we looked). I always said that the apartment in Connecticut would be my last…. but life throws you some curveballs and you should never say never.😉 The apartment itself… for being in a city, I’d say it’s great! We have a private backyard (🙌🏻) and there’s a huge living space which should be fun to host dinner parties in! I will also have an actual office that I’m very much looking forward to. (Right now, I have a workable space but there’s zero natural light.)
I’ve come around to being excited about living in a city again. I had gotten pretty used to driving and (again, please don’t judge me, I’m just being honest) loved getting all my groceries into my car after running errands. Within a week of being out of New York City, I never thought I’d be able to go back since it’s so easy to get used to the comfort of having extra space (like room for an 18-pack of toilet paper or whatever).
Now, with all that said, I love Hoboken. I had only been once when I lived in NYC and didn’t think too much of it since I didn’t see much other than NYC skyline. Because I’ve spent so many weekends in Hoboken with my boyfriend now, it’s grown on me! I have wondered, more than a few times, why I didn’t consider Hoboken more when I was leaving NYC. It’s a great little city with a ton of fantastic restaurants and shops. It’s definitely “friendlier” too than the city because it has a true community and neighborhood feel. It’s only about two square miles and there are babies and dogs everywhere you turn.
I also know a surprising number of people there already (like my friend Carolyn!) so I’m excited to be near them and being closer to my friends in the city. As I started sharing that I was moving with people I work with, I found a few more people who live there too… and I even found a parking space to rent (if you know anything about Hoboken, you know how horrible parking can be!) from a girl who, it turns out, reads my blog!
Maybe it’s because I’ve moved around quite a bit in my life (born in Georgia, then Massachusetts, then Florida, then DC for school, then New York, then Connecticut), but this doesn’t feel like some monumental move to me. It feels very “right,” for lack of a better phrase, to be moving in with my boyfriend and I’m ready for the change. It makes it seem a whole lot less daunting because I’ve basically been there every week for the past year! If anything, I’m looking forward to not having to leave. Again, I know it’s not really long distance, but I knew I was ready to make the move when it started to feel agonizing to leave every Sunday night. I felt like I was in limbo between where I lived (Connecticut) and where I wanted to be (with him).
As always, looking forward to sharing this next chapter of my journey with you!