One thing that I know to be true, even if I don’t feel it in the moment, is that everything will work out. It’s so cliche, but I love the phrase, “everything will be okay in the end and if it’s not okay, it’s not the end.” Of course, life is messy and doesn’t follow a straight line– even for the most Type A person.
I try to repeat this to myself as a mantra of sorts, especially when I feel like there are many unknowns or things that I just have to wait out. I know I have control issues (😬🤪) and I’ve definitely gotten better with accepting things not being perfect, but I’m a work in progress.
Right now in my life though, my stress over the unknowns has been pretty high right now. I know, logically, that everything will work out and yet my brain is going haywire showing me a hundred (bad) scenarios that for reasons that defy logic are all extremely likely to happen. (But they won’t. At most and at worst, only one could happen after all.)
To help combat this, I’ve enlisted a new little trick. It all started one morning in the shower (where I do my best thinking!) and I was thinking about all the other things in the past that I thought would end terribly or would never sort out and what I would tell my past self from the future to reassure her. “You’re going to do great on your SATs and you’re going to get into your dream school: Georgetown!” (Gosh, saying that alone would have made my entire high school career less stressful!) “Go ahead and relax a little, you’ll get a job after college. Enjoy this time off in the meantime!” “It’s okay to be sad, but don’t worry, this breakup is actually a good thing.”
Etcetera. Etcetera. Etcetera.
I have a ton of those moments that I can look back on now and realize, “well sheesh, I had nothing to worry about!” (And things that didn’t work out? Maybe there were a few of those moments… but I legitimately can’t remember them so they couldn’t have been that horrible in the long run, which means… I guess it all worked out in the end 😉.)
Because I’ve been doing that, I’ve been channeling my future self and telling my current self that everything will work out. And I’m getting specific with the mantras. I pretty much believe in the Law of Attraction, or at least I want to believe in it. (As long as you’re not in denial about facts, I can’t see how it would hurt to at least give it a go, you know?) So repeating these mantras “from the future” has been very calming.
And, look, even if things don’t play out the way I’m hoping, at least I would have spent the handful of weeks leading up to it with more peace of mind and less stress. That’s a positive I can get behind, regardless of the end result.
Anyone else do something like this?! Or any of your favorite tips? Do tell!