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How to Minimize the Stress You’re Feeling

I’ve noticed recently that I’m in a period of significantly less stress than usual. A big part of it is that we finally closed on the house and that instantly alleviated a lot of the big stuff on my plate. But I think a larger part of that is that I’ve just gotten better at managing the day-to-day stressors. I’m not perfect, but I’m so much better and it all comes down to a few small tweaks I’ve made to my everyday routine (like working out and putting my phone on Do Not Disturb during the day). Maxie hits the nail on the head here!

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How to Minimize the Stress You’re Feeling

Guest post by Maxie McCoy

Stress comes in so many forms. We feel it when we’re anxious. We feel it when we’re overwhelmed. We feel it if we’re worried about an outcome. Sometimes, we even feel it and have no idea why we’re even feeling stressed at all. In the same way that stress can take many forms, there are also many sources: Like being too busy. Being cramped for time. Feeling unsure of a decision. Or totally overwhelmed. 

It’s not fun. No matter the form and no matter the cause, you know when you’re stressed because you feel it. Joy feels more out of reach than normal, and the little problems seem like completely major obstacles that you’ll never be able to find your way around. 

Sometimes, I’ll be going days at a time before I slow down, realize I’ve been off or cranky, and then it hits me…oh, I’m stressed. If you’re feeling the same way, there are some really easy ways to calm it down. You’ve got to know what works for you, and what doesn’t. When you find what works…do more of that. Here are some things that work for me (and let us know what works for you!) 

Assess the stress. If you put a spotlight on your stress (why it’s there and where it’s coming from), you can minimize its power. If you ask yourself why you’re feeling so stressed, and then ask yourself why again…and why again…you might get to the root cause of what’s actually eating you up. Assess the stress and you can weaken it. 

Remove the noise. Stress gets magnified when we’re moving too fast, our brain is too overwhelmed, and we’re getting too much information. Whenever I need to slow it all down, I put my phone away for a little bit. Getting off all the social sites, and emails, and news alerts and texts can help. You’ll feel more clear.

Get into action. We get really stressed when we’re feeling stuck. When we’re feeling stuck, we do nothing. Instead of doing nothing when you’re stressed, do something. Action can be a great antidote for whatever you’re feeling. Ask yourself, what’s the absolute smallest thing I can do to relieve some of this tension?

Journal it out. Sometimes you just need to get the stress out of your head. But also sometimes, talking about it can make it worse. Instead, journal out everything you’re feeling and why. It might give you some insight and relieve the pressure you’re feeling.

And of course, do the tiny healthy things. Like breathing, workouts, getting outside for a walk or reading a good book. These can help remind you to be present, where everything is actually totally OK.  

Remember, stress isn’t always bad. It can be a sign that you’re pushing yourself, or a sign you’re about to come to the other side. But when the feeling gets overwhelming, it’s time to do the little things that can have a big difference in how you’re feeling. Stress isn’t permanent and you have more control over it than you think.

Need more little reminders that it’ll all be OK? Read Maxie’s book! 

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Katie

This ones such a good post Maxi!!!! I think it hits home for me right now because it’s been over a year since I’ve been able to find a full-time permanent job. I’ve been working two temporary jobs and I have deff felt the stress of what seems like a never ending cycle. That stuck feeling is real! The “take action” part is SO TRUE! Every time I do the littlest thing like apply for one job or empty photos off of my computer for photography clients, I instantly feel better!

Katie | http://www.sunshinestyleblog.com

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Emily

When I’m really stressed everything becomes very overwhelming and then I don’t want to do anything, which is a catch 22. I know that sometimes I just need to take a step back and write it all down. I do find that journaling really helpful.

Emily | Snippets of Em xx

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