After spending so many years dedicating my weekends to homework, studying, and regattas in high school/college and then living in NYC and falling victim to the unhealthy “hustle,” I’ve taken weekends back. Seriously, long gone are the days where I considered the weekend just two more days to cram in more work. Part of me still feels guilty when I spend the weekend doing nothing, but I’ve learned to embrace it better. Sometimes I do have to dedicate a portion of a day to work, but it’s rare now. I’m usually pretty good about setting myself up for a “successful” weekend by doing extra prep the week before.
It took me a while to switch from the always-be-accomplishing-something mindset to it’s-okay-to-slow-down, but I’m so much healthier because of it. And while I’m technically working less, I feel happier and healthier without actually losing any output. I find myself better equipped to have a productive and motivated week when I spend two days resting, relaxing, stepping away from my phone.
Dating and living with someone who has a traditional Monday-Friday job helped me with this in a big way, especially when we were long-distance and would spend our weekends together. It forced me to get everything I needed done done before the end of the day Friday… and then I wouldn’t have to touch my laptop while we were together over the weekend. It forced me to come to terms with the fact that I didn’t HAVE to work on the weekends, and in fact, by taking Saturday and Sunday off, I was better off in general.
I do know that I could be doing “more.” I could have a newsletter. I could be doing more video content. I could be traveling more. I could be starting another business. I could be doing insert-a-million-things. I’ve been that person. But I’ve come to realize that what I do and how much I do doesn’t really change who I actually am. I’m OKAY with where I am in life and it’s OKAY to want to have a more relaxed pace. That won’t always be the case as I know life changes and circumstances change. But for right now. I’m good. And I love my quiet, low key weekends.