One of the phrases I find myself repeating to myself at least a few times a week is, “suck it up.” My dad used to say it all the time, in a loving way. Maybe “suck it up” comes across as a little aggressive, perhaps “pull it together” is a bit nicer. I kind of like the roughness of the phrase because it always makes me get my butt into high gear. To stop moping and dragging my feet and to just get to it.
Even though it doesn’t sound that great, I think “suck it up” is one of the best phrases to adopt. There are just things I don’t want to do. But, you just have to suck it up and get it done. Whether it’s the laundry that’s been accumulating for a week too long, putting together your taxes at the end of the year, or going to meet someone that you don’t really feel like meeting. If it has to be done, it has to be done.
I think we all have that friend who cancels last minute or the coworker who just doesn’t do an assignment… you don’t want to be that person.
Now, I think this “suck it up” policy is pretty easy to follow when you’re living at home in high school or while you’re at college. Your mom and dad are there to remind you (like my dad!) to suck it up. You can put off that twenty page paper only so long before you have to reluctantly suck it up and stay up all night to perfect it before tomorrow’s due date.
But when you’re living on your own, guess who’s deciding whether or not you have to suck it up? There’s no parent nagging you about your laundry and no professor expecting an A paper on her desk. It’s you, girlfriend. All you.
It’s so easy to let things slide. It’s remarkably freeing even to be like, “yep, I don’t have to do that!” And the truth is, you don’t have to do everything… but most of the time you should. (I do believe there are some things you don’t have to do even though someone’s said you’re supposed to.)
Adulthood is more or less about choices. And really, the stakes are higher although the choices feel a bit more mundane on an everyday basis. Make the choice to suck it up and do the thing that you don’t really want to do… but need to do. The laundry, the budget, the meeting. The doctor’s appointment you keep pushing to next month, the tough conversation you’ve been meaning to have with a friend.
I find that it’s the hardest part to just decide to suck it up. Once you make up your mind to do it, it almost always ends up being not as bad as you could have imagined. And you may have to suck it up and go to the hardware store to get a new piece for the toilet seat that randomly broke (woo, adulthood)… but then you can skip your vegetables and opt for binge-watching Parks and Recreation on Netflix while eating pizza from Seamless.